“When is it giving up, and when is it changing direction?” is a question I get asked a lot.
There is no simple answer.
But to make it clearer, it is important to distinguish between end-goals and means-goals.
End-goals are what we’re ultimately aiming for; how we want to contribute, how we want to grow, what we want to experience, who we want to become. This is the big stuff.
Means-goals are the vehicles that get us there; jobs, money, achievements, businesses etc.
Deciding on whether to ‘give up’ on something is much easier when you are clear on this distinction.
Only when you know the end goal, can you identify a better vehicle and ‘give up’ on a current vehicle. This is a strategic decision that can help you get where you want faster.
But if you’re ‘giving up’ on the end-goal, then this requires much deeper soul-searching.
Are you giving up because you’re tired, because it got too hard, because you don’t know the next move? Or have you learned something and you have truly evolved your end-goal? This is a mindset issue.
Be committed to the end, but flexible in the approach.
This is the first blog I’ve written since my cousin Matthew was killed flying a helicopter a few weeks ago.
Do you ever not do something you want to for fear of being judged?
The poor old ego gets a bad rap.
We place labels on things – situations, relationships, roles – that state ‘this is this therefore this is not that.’
Or do you want to be right?
Recently I was in a meeting with my management team.
One isn’t better than the other.
We all have different personas; the child, the warrior, the sage etc.
Is a feeling.
Entrepreneurs and doctors are similar in many ways.