“When is it giving up, and when is it changing direction?” is a question I get asked a lot.
There is no simple answer.
But to make it clearer, it is important to distinguish between end-goals and means-goals.
End-goals are what we’re ultimately aiming for; how we want to contribute, how we want to grow, what we want to experience, who we want to become. This is the big stuff.
Means-goals are the vehicles that get us there; jobs, money, achievements, businesses etc.
Deciding on whether to ‘give up’ on something is much easier when you are clear on this distinction.
Only when you know the end goal, can you identify a better vehicle and ‘give up’ on a current vehicle. This is a strategic decision that can help you get where you want faster.
But if you’re ‘giving up’ on the end-goal, then this requires much deeper soul-searching.
Are you giving up because you’re tired, because it got too hard, because you don’t know the next move? Or have you learned something and you have truly evolved your end-goal? This is a mindset issue.
Be committed to the end, but flexible in the approach.
A while ago I encouraged my daughter Zara not to listen to a friend who wanted her to do something that she didn’t feel good about.
When we focus on a past that we don’t like, we are living in a state where we are hoping an imaginary future will heal a non-existent past.
Recently I was in a situation that wasn’t what I wanted, but there wasn’t anything I could do to change it.
Is it to never stop believing?
If you fill up every area of your life with little regard for the quality of what you’re filling it with, there’s not much room left.
“Fortune favours the bold.”
“Look before you leap.”
So, which one is it???
We all make them.
The thought of hard decisions is often worse than the consequences.
Some people bring magic into your life.
I’m in my office at the moment. This morning I’ve planned next week, had multiple meetings and worked on some strategic moves for my business.