“When is it giving up, and when is it changing direction?” is a question I get asked a lot.
There is no simple answer.
But to make it clearer, it is important to distinguish between end-goals and means-goals.
End-goals are what we’re ultimately aiming for; how we want to contribute, how we want to grow, what we want to experience, who we want to become. This is the big stuff.
Means-goals are the vehicles that get us there; jobs, money, achievements, businesses etc.
Deciding on whether to ‘give up’ on something is much easier when you are clear on this distinction.
Only when you know the end goal, can you identify a better vehicle and ‘give up’ on a current vehicle. This is a strategic decision that can help you get where you want faster.
But if you’re ‘giving up’ on the end-goal, then this requires much deeper soul-searching.
Are you giving up because you’re tired, because it got too hard, because you don’t know the next move? Or have you learned something and you have truly evolved your end-goal? This is a mindset issue.
Be committed to the end, but flexible in the approach.
Humans are tribal.
As humans we have an insatiable desire to explain untoward events so we can get on with solutions.
In any field, most of the rewards go to the top 5% of people.
I say please to Siri.
If a turkey were to assess the state of the world in early December, they would be forgiven for thinking all is well and that the farmer loves them.
We often compare today’s performance relative to yesterdays.
In summer I walked up to the Rob Roy Glacier near Wanaka.
There are two ways to find the limit.
When I was skiing professionally, I knew that standing on the edge of a cliff for longer didn’t make it any safer to drop.
On Monday I attended the funeral of a good friend of mine from medical school, Andy Greer. He died suddenly while working a shift at Christchurch Hospital. He was 40.