We’ve all been there in negotiations; you want something, they want something else, and you can’t reach an agreement.
Sitting at lunch one day Bill told us a story about how he helped to negotiate the end of the Cuban Missile Crisis. Both sides had their metaphorical fingers on the button, and he knew he had to find common ground to avoid a huge disaster. He determined that neither side wanted and accidental nuclear war, and from this they negotiated peace.
He told me that the key was moving from positions to interests.
A position is a locked-in state of mind; I want this, if I don’t get it I lose, I want to win and I want you to lose.
When both sides take positions, there is no movement.
Interests are the why behind the positions. What is driving someone to take that stance?
When you can figure out someone’s interests, that opens the door to create solutions where everyone wins.
Humans are tribal.
As humans we have an insatiable desire to explain untoward events so we can get on with solutions.
In any field, most of the rewards go to the top 5% of people.
I say please to Siri.
If a turkey were to assess the state of the world in early December, they would be forgiven for thinking all is well and that the farmer loves them.
We often compare today’s performance relative to yesterdays.
In summer I walked up to the Rob Roy Glacier near Wanaka.
There are two ways to find the limit.
When I was skiing professionally, I knew that standing on the edge of a cliff for longer didn’t make it any safer to drop.
On Monday I attended the funeral of a good friend of mine from medical school, Andy Greer. He died suddenly while working a shift at Christchurch Hospital. He was 40.