We don’t need to detach from our painful past.
The past can’t hurt you.
We instead just need to detach from our feelings about it.
The easiest way to detach from these feelings is to replace the story that you’re telling yourself about your past.
My father had no time for me as a child (dejected)… can be replaced with My father loved me so much he worked hard to give me a future that he never had (grateful).
My mother died when I was just a teenager (sad)… can be replaced with My mother lived long enough to guide me through my teenage years and to contribute to the adult that I am today (happy).
It is never too late to re-write your story and it Is never too late to have a happy childhood.
(Thank you, Les Dyer, for your wisdom here)
Change isn’t that hard.
Our lives are filled with paths that we have seduced ourselves into believing are impossible for us to take.
A while ago I encouraged my daughter Zara not to listen to a friend who wanted her to do something that she didn’t feel good about.
When we focus on a past that we don’t like, we are living in a state where we are hoping an imaginary future will heal a non-existent past.
Recently I was in a situation that wasn’t what I wanted, but there wasn’t anything I could do to change it.
Is it to never stop believing?
If you fill up every area of your life with little regard for the quality of what you’re filling it with, there’s not much room left.
“Fortune favours the bold.”
“Look before you leap.”
So, which one is it???
We all make them.