You’re busy, I get that. So are we all.
You will have heard the advice that “You need to learn how to say no” I’m sure.
The question is, when do we apply this?
Warning, I’m going deep and meaningful here…
It starts with being clear on the Vision for your life, knowing exactly what you want it to look like, and your Purpose in life, knowing why it all matters.
Your subconscious mind is 30,000x more powerful than your conscious mind. It doesn’t make value judgements, rather it obeys your dominant thoughts and thinks in images and emotions.
People who don’t have a Vision for their life aren’t directly using their powerful subconscious minds to work for them, instead they are working against them. In addition, when you don’t know what the destination is almost any road might seem like the right one.
But it isn’t.
Any road will get you somewhere, but probably not somewhere you want.
When we are clear on our Vision and Purpose, when we have a clear target for our lives, we can process requests on our time against that target: Does this move me closer or further from that target?
If it moves you away then say no, if it moves you closer, say yes.
For example, a hugely important part of my Vision is my family and how I show up as a husband and father. As a result I generally don’t take meetings after 5pm so that I can be home between 5.30pm and 6pm to have a family meal, to play with my girls, and to spend quality time with Claire.
I have a filter to make decisions so saying ‘no’ is easy.
As with most things, this is a Mindset change that’s required, a prioritisation of what’s truly important, rather than learning the skill of saying ‘no’.
Get clear on what matters to you and let that be your filter and tell me
When it comes to your business, what’s more important, revenue or profit?
I run a course called Board of Directors. Business owners join me for two days every three months and we go deep on their businesses, and their own personal psychology.
Recently we got some HR people in to help us improve our professional development program at MedRecruit.
People often talk about the impact they want to have… In the future.
After a crisis, most people aim to get back to the state they were in before the crisis.
Recently the World Medical Association ratified a change to the Declaration of Geneva, the modern-day Hippocratic Oath, the value-set of doctors worldwide, to include the health and wellbeing of doctors.
I was recently speaking to a group of corporates.
And I had to smile.
I speak to a lot of groups of people AND Purpose is something that I’m big on, and it invariably leads to someone asking the question, “I don’t know what I want to do. What should I do?”
“When is it giving up, and when is it changing direction?” is a question I get asked a lot.
Some people like beer.
Some people like wine.