There are two ways to find the limit.
Push it until you go over the limit, then step back a bit.
Or, learn where the limit is from others then step forward to it.
The consequences of failure determine which method is appropriate in any given situation.
For example, if you’re driving a fast car, the consequences of going over the limit can be very severe. But if you’re learning to ride a bike the consequences are simply a grazed knee.
Sometimes you need to go over the edge, but not always.
When we want something, we are taught to visualise that thing, to focus on that image, until we have it.
Have you ever moved into a new house and seen something that needed fixing and thought “I’ll get on to that soon”?
As humans we have an insatiable desire to explain untoward events so we can get on with solutions.
If a turkey were to assess the state of the world in early December, they would be forgiven for thinking all is well and that the farmer loves them.